Last month, Sarah was featured on EWTN’s Pro-Life Weekly. Here you can watch her tell more of her foster care, adoption story and how she found healing from the pain of her past.

 

I have barely had a moment to breath this summer between speaking engagements, my work at Louisiana Right to Life and caring for Jesse solo as David was away for six weeks preparing for an upcoming examination. In May, I was honored to speak on a panel with The National Review Institute regarding foster care and my experience in the system in Louisiana as a young child. Click here to read an article about my story, which was published by my new friend Kathryn Jean Lopez.

In June, I spoke at the National Right to Life Convention in Kansas City along side other abortion survivors and had the opportunity to share about the social dilemmas that sometimes accompany abortion decisions.

Then, last week, I traveled to D.C. again to share my story with the Archdiocese of Washington and on EWTN TV and radio. I plan to write more in depth about my experience there but until then, here is a picture.

This summer my husband and I also celebrated his graduation from Loyola in New Orleans and our son’s first birthday in June. We are anticipating big changes in our lives as we embark on raising a toddler!

 

 

 

Yesterday Pope Francis released an apostolic exhortation in the papal document “Gaudete et Exsultate” (Rejoice and Be Glad).

Here’s a portion many Christians are referencing: “Our defense of the innocent unborn, for example, needs to be clear, firm and passionate. Equally sacred, however, are the lives of the poor, those already born, the destitute, the abandoned and the underprivileged, the vulnerable infirm and elderly exposed to covert euthanasia, the victims of human trafficking, new forms of slavery, and every form of rejection.”

Good Friday is one of the most sacred days for Christians because it is the day we remember and reflect on Christ’s sacrifice on the cross. For me personally, it has special significance because I found comfort as a child, and now as an adult, in the Suffering Servant of Isaiah 53:

Many people ask me how I survived psychologically with the events of my childhood; the affliction, abandonment and abuse. My only answer for them is Christ, both directly and from the hands and feet of people He brought in my life. At the tender age of five years old, I met Jesus on the filthy cold floor of my childhood home. He came to me as the Suffering Servant who was intimately familiar with pain, specifically the pain I was experiencing.

Prior to my encounter with Christ, I was blessed to hear the Gospel at church and make a simple decision in my heart to consider Jesus.  I learned that “God so loved the world that He gave up His only son so that WHOEVER believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” I learned that He did this for me, a child who felt forgotten and entangled in the depths of human depravity.

I sometimes hear from other Christians that children, especially young children, don’t have the capacity to understand the Gospel.  However, after four years of Bible college, I can assure you that even as an adult I have not come (even close) to a full understanding of Christ’s sacrifice on the cross.  Of course, as a child I didn’t understand the Gospel as I do now, but I would argue He was closer to me than ever because of the condition of my heart.

In college, I wrote a paper on the beatitudes found in the Gospel of Matthew, specifically the verse “Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven.” I learned that this is not only referring to those who are economically poor, which I was, but also the disposition of one’s heart. As a child, my heart was full of despair brought on by my own family, and I knew I needed miraculous intervention to survive.

I was emotionally vulnerable from the neglect of my mother, physically vulnerable from a lack of nutrition and abuse by my brothers, all conditions that ultimately made my soul spiritually desperate for the need of a Savior. To this day, I believe with all my heart that even the smallest response to the Gospel can save a life as it did mine.

I often get the opportunity to share my adoptive mom’s story whenever I share my own. This is because I’ve known about her choice to end the life of her unborn baby since I was a child. She, like many women, pursed abortion at the age of 27 after her boyfriend showed little interest in having a baby and starting a family. Tragically, this was her only pregnancy, and now she speaks openly against abortion as the regional coordinator for the Silent No More Awareness Campaign.

Her story points to a reality many ignore, which is the majority of abortions that take place do so following some form of coercion, that is influence and pressure from a partner, parent or loved one. This means that women are not making the decision to abort because it is actually what they want for their baby; they are having abortions because people in their lives are encouraging them to do so.

Coercion can be subtle or it can be more serious and include threats or force. Either way, women deserve better than a society that tells them their best option for their future includes aborting their innocent baby. For my birth mother and my adoptive mother, abortion wreaked havoc on their lives, and during my birth mother’s time on Earth my adopted mother encouraged her to seek healing. This was because not only did she pursue abortion with me, she had them in the past and always regretted her choices. Although she is not alive anymore, I know she has found eternal healing that only God can provide. 

For my adoptive mother, I am amazed at how much God has healed and brought restoration in her life. I will never replace the baby she aborted, but God in his goodness granted her the chance to be a mother, and now even a grandmother. On a daily basis, I get to watch how God blesses her with the gift of my son, Jesse. There are simply no words to describe the amazing grace of God, so instead I will give you a glimpse of it in the pictures below. 

 

 

In June of last year, my husband and I welcomed our first child, Jesse into our family. We loved him immediately. We knew he would get plenty of attention because his grandparents, my adoptive parents, were counting down the days until his birth. They came with us to the hospital and my mom stayed with us overnight the first fews days after he was born.

Those early days of motherhood were challenging, and becoming a mother for the first time made me think about life and adoption completely differently. Like many women, I was emotional after my son’s birth but I also was processing what it must have been like for my birth mother to have me and then lose me, and not by her own choosing. I considered with brand new eyes how devastating that must have been while also realizing that adoption was the only road for me. Of course, I already knew that before my son’s birth but becoming a parent confirmed it even more.

My mother’s mental health prohibited her from being the mom she wanted to be. She loved us deeply yet couldn’t manage to do some of the basics of motherhood, like protect us from abuse or provide a safe home. I have long reconciled that reality in my heart, which is why I can say with certanity that foster care and adoption saved my life.

This, however, does not make my birth mother a bad person. I would even say she is stronger than me in many ways after considering what it must have been like to walk in her shoes. She did not have privilege like me. She was a poor minority woman with six children, yet she chose life for me in the end. Isn’t that what really matters? Choosing life at the end. For me, that singular choice has helped me forgive her for areas where she fell short as a mother. I am thankful that she is with Jesus now, where I know she is finally free.